In a smart phone world saturated with Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, YouTube, and so much more, it is so easy to find ourselves comparing ourselves and our lives to what we see all over social media. We scroll through photos or videos looking at what our friends, the people we follow, or what celebrities are up to, where they’re vacationing, how happy they are, what they look like, how busy they are, and how successful they appear to be. Then suddenly we find ourselves looking at our lives and realize how “insignificant” we feel, or how “unsuccessful” we are, or how “boring” our lives are in comparison to others. Or, were just left feeling sad afterwards and wonder why. I’m sure in one way or another we’ve all found ourselves doing this. Sometimes we aren’t even aware that we are doing this because it’s such a routine for us to “check in” to all these social platforms. When we start comparing ourselves to others, how are we left feeling after it? Some people would say discouraged, unhappy, jealous, defeated, unimportant, not good enough, etc. So, why do we as humans do this to ourselves? Is it because we don’t like who we are or what we’re doing with our life? Is it because we don’t know who we really are and what God says about us? Are we unmotivated and uninspired and trying to gain inspiration from the world around us? 

We’ve all heard the saying “there’s always going to be someone prettier than you,” “there’s always going to be someone smarter than you,” or “there’s always going to be someone better than you.” I’ve heard this statement being used a lot regarding the topic of comparison and it has always bothered me and I could never figure out why, until just recently. I realized that all it really does is set someone up for immediate comparison, and suggests that in our best effort we will never be good enough, or as good as this person or that person. In addition, I find it discouraging and completely counterproductive to its purpose as a statement. But I say, who defines your beauty? Who defines your success? Who defines your worth? Yes, we all have our unique gifts, talents, and strengths, but let’s take the focus off of what other people have and start looking at who YOU are and what God gave YOU. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, you are a child of God, you are loved, you are enough, you are unique, and you are called to a great purpose. “God is asking you to believe He is who He says He is, believe you are who He says you are, and then live like you believe those things”-Rick Warren. 

Stop comparing yourself to others and stop believing lies about yourselves. Start saying what God says about you and let it change the way you think about yourself. Then, as a result, it will change the way you live. I had a dear friend, Linda Wilson, that passed away and one thing I remember her saying when I spoke to her about this several years ago, was “what’s theirs is theirs and what’s yours is yours.” Stop looking to the left and to the right and start realizing what you have and be thankful for it all.  In moments when you feel yourself comparing yourself to someone else, just stop! Put your smart phone down, close your eyes, and ask God to give you the right perspective. Ask Him to tell you what He thinks about you. Ask Him to show you what He has in store for your life. I promise, you will find so much joy and satisfaction when you truly know who YOU are in Him and what He has planned for YOU. 

The Unseen

THE UNSEEN // There exists a place that is unseen where you will spend eternity. If you kept this your daily perspective, how would you live your life differently? // My husband helped me design this mug a couple weeks ago inspired by these words that have been on my mind since the beginning of the new year- FIX YOUR EYES ON THE UNSEEN. It’s inspired by this verse: “So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather, we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever”2 Cor 4:17-18. My resolution for this New Year was to simply make this verse a reality in my life. It’s so easy to lose sight of what matters most in this world. We’re all striving to be or do something great, to feel important and respected, to feel happy and successful, so much so that we forget about what lasts forever. We let the worries and troubles of this world dictate our lives and affect who we are and how we spend our time. Our life is so short and one day this world and everything in it will be gone. It wont matter how much money you had, how successful you were, how talented you were, how many places you’ve been, or how many friends or followers on Instagram you had. The silly things you find yourself worrying about will not matter! When God calls me to my eternal home, I want to know I did my best to love Him and love others with my whole heart. “Now these three things remain: faith, hope and love; but the greatest of these is love.” How can I be better at love? I can start here- “Love is being patient with people, love is being kind to others, love isn’t being jealous or boastful, love isn’t being prideful, love doesn’t dishonor others, love isn’t self seeking, love is not easily angered, love keeps no record of wrongs, love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth, love always protects, love always trusts, love always hopes, love always perseveres, and love never fails (1 Cor 13:4-8)”. It’s so simple but so complicated at the same time. I find it most difficult to do this when I face trials and hardships in my life. As humans we can tend to become so inwardly focused that we forget the importance of these simple truths. One day we will know what it’s like to never feel any pain, heartache, disappointment, brokenness, fears, worries, or discouragement. There exists a place that is unseen where you will spend eternity. If you kept this your daily perspective, how would you live your life differently? This mug is my daily reminder. The tree in the middle represents the beauty of Gods amazing creation. I find when I walk through a beautiful lush forrest, stare out into a still and vast lake, or gaze into a vibrant colorful sunset over the ocean, it shifts my thinking from the striving pace, busyness, and worries of this world to being still and reminding myself to fix my eyes on what they can’t see. My hope for everyone reading this is that you would be reminded of the same things. Love with your whole heart and know that whatever you are facing right now, it will one day pass. “Your life on this earth is like the morning fog- it is here a little while and then it’s gone (James 4:14)” so fix your eyes on the unseen!